A gifted individual is a quick and clever thinker, who is able to deal with complex matters. Autonomous, curious and passionate. A sensitive and emotionally rich person, living intensely. He or she enjoys being creative. -definition of giftedness written by the Netherlands Study on Giftedness in Adults

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Reflections on Growing Up

Yes, dear friends, it is happening. The kidlet, ahem, teenlet, is growing up. This summer has been remarkable, as we have begun to see signs of change that we've been awaiting for ages. The teenlet's asynchrony gaps are closing.

Change is never a smooth process. It is a sometimes jarring, sometimes invisible tornado that carries you along in its whirling. You may not notice much if you're in the eye, but shift ever so slightly off-center and you're caught up in a force to which you can only submit.

A school administrator once told me to expect this - she said that we would see a major shift at about 13. The teenlet still has three months to go before he officially becomes a teenager, but the change that has begun is remarkable.

I'm not just talking about physical changes - those are happening, too, but the emotional changes are more profound. I suppose that's because he had further to come. In a few short months, he has gone from a 7 year old maturity, to much closer to his real age. I can't even ennumerate the signs for you, but it gives me such hope. And I hope it gives you hope, too.

The teenlet won't ever be like everyone else. But now I can begin to see the adult he will be. And I like him. I like hanging out with him.

It's not all roses and butterflies, there is still much to do. But it doesn't feel so overwhelming for the moment. I'm enjoying.this place for as long as I can.


  1. They grow up? Oh God really? Really really REALLY? I've heard that about gifted kids and asynchrony and teenagerhood before, but I never believed it. My God I hope so. I'll be doing the Countdown To 13 right with him. (A year and a half, for those who are keeping track).

  2. Yep - my DS just turned 13 and we have certainly seen some physical changes, and he just seems to be getting his "stuff" together a bit more. Less meltdowns, more helpful, funnier, trying out his personality (even more!).

  3. Yup, my daughter is turning 16 and is maturing in ways I would never have believed when she was in the single digits. My highly 2e son is turning 13 and suddenly he cares about things that are very useful in parenting him, such as what other people think. Hygiene is no longer about me bugging him but about others not thinking he stinks. Handwriting happens because he doesn't want to be made fun of by the other kids, even playing a game. I'm also seeing wiring make connections that I had only dreamed of. Mona, you could have written this for me. <3

  4. Really? REALLY? Oh, please. Let that happen in my house too. I need hope! :-)

  5. That is encouraging, thank you! Only have 10 more years to go... :)